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My wife is a partner at a large firm. I don’t know what it is about her work, but she’s always so prickly and angry. We haven’t had a decent conversation in months, and all the words between us are either about running the household or words of disagreement. She also takes her anger out on our seven-year-old daughter and me. My wife is under a lot of stress at work, but I am so tired of her angry tirades I just want to leave. What shall I do?

Have you told her how you feel? Tell her that you are not going to be intimidated by her anger and that if she does not do something about it, she needs to leave. She will probably go into a tirade but be strong and repeat that if she does not stop, she needs to move out. If she objects, then you may have to leave and take your 7 year old. Ask her if she can have a conversation with you without being angry. Then try discussing her anger with her. Such anger will destroy a marriage and it definitely is an unhealthy environment for any 7 year old. Of ten lawyer mothers will listen when it comes to losing their children.

By Dr. Fiona Travis, psychologist, author of Should You Marry a Lawyer?

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