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I am a recently married mid-level associate in my firm. For the past year, I have been having an affair with one of the firm's partners, who is also recently married. We both work in the same department and are trying to keep our private lives a secret, particularly since we invited members of the firm to each of our respective weddings. We don't know where our relationship will go, but I am wondering if I should start looking for another firm. There haven't been any problems with work but I don't want to wait for any to happen. What do you think?

You sound as if you have no choice in the development of this affair. As two adults, you need to decide where this relationship is going to go, it is your choice, not that of fate. Although you may think you are keeping this a secret, nearly all office affairs are discovered by colleagues who pick up on nonverbal cues. You are taking a risk , both personally and professionally. If the two of you choose to continue, (and it is a choice) to maintain privacy, I suggest you begin to look at another firm. By Dr. Fiona Travis, psychologist, author of Should You Marry a Lawyer?				Yes. Start looking. By Amanda, JD, a California bar advisor

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